We like playing a game with the kids called “guess what animal I’m thinking about”. It’s a simple game when one person thinks about a specific animal and the others ask questions which can only have a “yes” or “no” answer.
Our 5 year old daughter usually ask the same question “is it a unicorn?”
We all end up bursting into laughter and then the game gets really silly.
But that’s not the poin of this post. This post is about why we believe in unicorns and embrace the “unicorns” within.
Our natural instinct tells us to behave the way that everyone else does. Fitting is is very important , especially when we talk about kids and their socialisation. Children generally want to be accepted, they want to be liked.
But why do we want to be the same? Why is it not a norm in a modern society to be different? To be unique?
At that time I realised that it gets a lot harder to be a unicorn when you are 9 as if when you are 5. The younger the child the more oblivious they are to social acceptance and what is deemed as “cool”.
As a parent I try to embrace my children’s differences, it’s absolutely fine if my children want to play chess instead of football,it’s perfectly fine my daughter wants to be a Spider-Man at a dress up party. Why can’t be design a society where differences are embraced?
This would be the easiest solution!
As a part of our social studies, we learn how to be proud of our differences. Here are some tips:
1. Teach them to respond appropriately. This may sound like a challenge but it will benefit them in a long run, it will teach them to stand up for what they believe. Also they are children so they need to learn things first before they can implement them. If a child is laughed at then teach them to say,
” please don’t laugh at me, it’s not nice to laugh at people and it hurts my feelings. I like (what I’m wearing, my backpack, my choice of music etc.) . It’s my choice to do ( play chess, play piano, eat vegetables ).
This will be hard at first, and children often want to react differently , but practise this at home and you will see a difference quickly.
2. Share the love. Teach them to try to involve others in what they were doing. Try to say
” why won’t you give it a go, this is fun for ME, maybe you will like it too”
3. Get some facts for them. My son used to get laughed at for wearing a sun hat (silly right)? He googled some facts and was able to tell others why he was wearing one as he had actual figures behind him etc.
4. Celebrate their differences. Once a month we have a unicorn day, this is a day when we celebrate all the quarky stuff we like doing. We have a party and all of us (even daddy) tell the others why we are unicorns.
5. Give a good example. Set up a good example to follow, they will see that you are proud of yourself and that will boost their confidence. It’s amazing how much children learn when they observe their peers. Make sure you use that power wisely.
Last night we designed some printable planner stickers and birthday gifts tags, the theme?
Unicorns of course!!
download it here HERE
download it here
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